Projector Boundaries: A Thought And An Exercise
We need our mirrors, Projectors. People are our mirrors. And how we see them might just be the key to understanding ourselves.
But… can we invert our bitterness? Can we harness this awareness of the other to gain more awareness of ourselves and what we need?
I’m genuinely interested to hear if this works for you too. This is a thought I’ve had and something I have just tried on my own experiment and it threw me from my pedal stall.
Let’s go!
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Are you confused about what boundaries to set?
Are you confused about what you need more or less of in your life?
Here’s an exercise to consider.
Projectors learn about themselves through the other. We are very good at giving advice to others. We are not so good at giving advice to ourself. Or figuring ourselves out.
Think of someone you are arguing with at the moment. Or think of someone you think low of at the moment.
Write down the advice you’d give to them. Write down all the boundaries you think they need to enforce.
Now look at that list and see if it applies to you. People are mirrors. And as Projectors, we learn about ourself through the other. Other people are our teachers and our guides.
So… is there anything on that list of advice that you could take for yourself which actually applies to you too? Are your frustrations with them and their boundaries also direct mirrors of what you need to adopt in your life?
